Last updated: December 2025

Naming a guardian is less about predicting the future and more about giving your children stability if the unimaginable happens. If parents can’t care for a child, a court may appoint a guardian. Your estate plan can help guide that decision by documenting your preferences.

Key takeaways

• Name a first-choice guardian and a backup.
• Choose based on values, relationship, and practical realities.
• Have the conversation before you finalize documents.

When you’re choosing someone, you’re choosing a home, routines, values, and day-to-day care. That’s why this decision deserves a little time. Consider the following:

• willingness and ability to serve
• location and potential disruption
• parenting style and values
• relationship with your children
• organization and financial responsibility

A helpful add-on: a “guardian letter”

Many parents also write a non-legal letter explaining routines, school preferences, medical needs, and the people they want their children to stay connected to. It’s not a substitute for legal documents, but it’s incredibly helpful.